Now you have to show the Judge what you have been doing to stay out of trouble also you will have to have someone to help testify for to show that you have changed and that you are doing good and working hard to get your daughter back. You might want to join a church that helps as well when you get your pastor to talk for you. It sounds like he is developing the wrong way. It seems very likely he is internally transitioning to female and that this request is a signal for you to get on board and schedule a top and bottom female surgery so he can be his true self and live a life free from the burden of gender dysphoria. I would call a surgeon right away and let your son know he has supportive parents. And make sure you get his best friends to let him know they will be there for him when he comes out as a very real pretty girl.